第79章 人们为什么会对服务人员发脾气
Why People Lash Out at Service Workers
人们为什么会对服务人员发脾气
By Kate Morgan
Whether we're willing to admit it， most people have treated a service worker poorly， at least to some degree. We've said things we regret to a customer-service representative， a flight attendant， a cashier or barista， usually sparked by something not that person's fault， or not in their control.
不管你是否愿意承认，大多数人或多或少都对服务人员发过脾气。我们都曾对客服、空乘、收银员或咖啡师说过一些让自己事后后悔的话，尽管事情的起因通常并非对方的过错，或者并不是他们能控制的。
Generally， humans are pretty inflexible. When routines get altered， this can unnerve people and spike agitation. That undercurrent of stress has a tendency to boil over during mundane tasks， like grabbing coffee or a meal. That means a service worker can often be the person in the line of fire: suddenly， you're snapping at a waitress who's just trying to serve you some pancakes.
一般来讲，人并不擅长变通。一旦例行常规发生变动，就会让人紧张、烦躁。这种潜在的压力很容易在买咖啡或点餐等日常琐事中爆发。这就意味着，服务人员通常会成为你的“出气筒”：你会突然冲餐厅女服务生发火，而她只不过给你端上松饼而已。
This is because people who aren't in service positions can feel superior to people who are， and it's much easier to punch down.“Even though we shouldn't look at one occupation being higher in terms of a hierarchy than another， you naturally can fall into that trap and assume that you're superior，“ says Reena B Patel， a psychologist and behaviour analyst.
这是因为面对服务人员，不从事服务工作的人会有一种优越感，很容易做出仗势欺人的事。心理学家兼行为分析师丽娜·B·帕特尔（Reena B Patel）表示：“尽管我们不应认为某一种职业的地位高于另一种职业，但是你会不自觉地陷入这种思维陷阱，认为自己更为优越。”
You can make sure your better angels remain in control， she says， by using a person's name， instead of just thinking of them as a stranger you'll never have to speak to again.“Even though you're upset， you're acknowledging – and reminding yourself – that they're a human， and they have feelings.“
帕特尔谈到，你要确保自己本性中善的一面发挥主导作用；要想做到这一点，你可以用对方的名字来称呼他们，而不是把他们当成再也说不上话的陌生人。“即使很生气，你也要承认并提醒自己：他们也是人，他们也有感情。”
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